I am usually not big about posting about this subject, but this one fell close to my heart since my kids are reaching that preteen stage. Although they aren’t going on dates yet, I know that time is just around the corner. I found this post on another acquaintance blog and had to share it! Some of these points may seem a little old school, but hey-I would rather my son and daughter follow these guidelines rather than what they see and learn elsewhere. If you can teach your child even just some of these things, they will be on their way to being respected and genuine young adults. The first list is for sons and the second list is for daughters!
10 Things a Boy Should Know Before His First Date
1. Clean your car. Inside and out. No girl wants to go on a date with Slurpee cups and jock straps.
2. Walk to the front door and shake her parent’s hands. Look them in the eye and thank them for allowing their daughter to go out with you. You should do this both before and after the date.
3. If she isn’t kind to you on the first date, she never will be.
4. No means no. ALWAYS. If she says no, you stop. IMMEDIATELY.
5. A kiss is something you earn. And even better, ask first. It is thoughtful, kind and respectful.
6. Find out what she likes and plan your date around it. A movie, sports, mini golf? What kind of food does she like? Is she an animal lover? Go to the zoo. You get the idea.
7. Hold the door open. All of them. At home. In public. And ESPECIALLY the car door.
8. Have a girl home five minutes before her curfew. It means everything to her parents to know you respect their rules.
9. A date is for the two of you. Not you, her and four of your closest teammates.
10. Take a shower and use deodorant. And by shower I don’t mean dousing yourself in Axe Body Spray.
11 Things a Girl Should Know Before Her First Date
1. Always have an out plan. Use your parents if you need to. Have a certain thing you text your parents, or best friend. That way, they can help you alleviate any situation you are uncomfortable with.
2. You are NEVER helpless. SAY NO and then fight HARD if you have to.
3. Be yourself, not what you think he wants you to be.
4. Have a couple of topics to talk about in case the conversation stalls. First dates can be awkward for both of you. Topics can be something going on at school, something you are interested in or something you know he is interested in.
5. If there is a little voice inside your head telling you something-LISTEN.
6. Don’t post your date on Facebook before it happens. And? Don’t talk about it on Facebook after. Good or bad. It is too much pressure and too personal.
7. If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t. Go home.
8. Stay in public or around other people.
9. A boy should knock on your front door and introduce himself to your parents. He should walk you to your door at the end of your date and say goodnight to them too.
10. If he isn’t a gentleman on your first date, he never will be.
11. Don’t overdress or wear too much makeup. Just wear what you feel comfortable in. He asked you out because he likes you the way you are.
Letting go of your child’s innocence and youth is extremely hard to do. There does come a time where they will be dating and going off with people we may not know very well. As long as you know they are safe and stay in touch throughout the day, you can feel at ease knowing your child is just an ordinary preteen or teenager. The perfect balance between overprotective parent and understanding parent will really maintain your relationship with your teen and they will know you are just doing whats best for them. Good luck with the teenagers years, and let me in on any advice you want to share! I will need it I’m sure!!